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Holy Shenanigans! More STUFF?

Loosing one’s business owed to deficiency of personal control is a sad thing. I’ve watched many people make just exactly that. Recently, a friend told me that her lone money is in her business account and she’s been using it rather freely. The business is losing money. It’s going under, because it can’t support itself. She have another income, but she’s not living within her means.

So, what is she buying with ‘her money’? Frivolities, unneeded trivialities, and ‘bargains’. She and I have got discussed the ‘bargains’ she buys. She’s got more than material than any 10 people NEED, and she still purchases because it do her ‘feel good’. The fact of the matter is, she have a large old edifice completely full of ‘STUFF’ she declines to ‘sell’ because it’s got personal value, and it’s of import to her, but the roof is falling in on the building, pigeons are in the edifice pooping on all of her prized possessions, so she purchases more than ‘STUFF’ to work out the problem. Ten dollar swimming pools to maintain the rainfall from dripping onto her old-timer piece of furniture and collectibles, plastic to cover them. Meanwhile the mice are eating through the upholstery and gnawing through the old-timer woods.

The ground she makes this – is it supplies her with emotional ‘security’. As long as she have ‘STUFF’ she have ‘security’, she thinks. In the mean value while, she’s working at a occupation to back up her ‘STUFF’ habit, and loosing her business, because she’s cachexia the money from her ‘business’, instead of using it to construct a business that would eventually back up her – if she didn’t have got all that ‘STUFF’ draining her income. She doesn’t have got security; she have ‘STUFF’ being ruined by the frivolous mode in which she is disbursement her money.

To state she is eccentric, actually only gives acceptance to her behavior. The fact of the mode is, she doesn’t have got the money to be eccentric. She have ‘STUFF’ which isn’t going to get her anywhere, because her ‘STUFF’ is not appreciating, it’s getting ruined. She have got friends, but she doesn’t listen to them, she have to have her ‘STUFF’. I’m actually afraid my friend is going to be a alone old individual taking care of her ‘STUFF’ because she just can’t quite recognize that she needs to construct human relationships with people, and allow travel of her ‘STUFF’.

One time, I even inquire her about ‘friends’ and she responded she doesn’t have got anyone she can trust. I can understand why. She’s worked her full life to develop a human relationship with her ‘STUFF’. I see her a friend, and I have got gone the extra mile to do our friendly relationship work. I inquire sometimes at my dedication to the friendly relationship – because sometimes I experience like I’m workings toward a dead end. Particularly when it come ups to her business. I worked for nil at modern times while I attempted to assist her get her business up and running. I felt eventually it would be deserving something to her. But, she experiences if she purchases me ‘stuff’ she’s somehow making it deserving my clip to assist her. Her values are misplaced, and her precedences are dysfunctional.

The saddest thing is, she’s filling up her business with her ‘STUFF’ and when she looses the business, and she will free her ‘STUFF’ too. Then what will she do? Her ‘STUFF’ isn’t taken care of, it’s just stashed there, taking up space and loosing value.

Every clip I see her, I desire to scream, “Holy Shenanigans, MORE STUFF!” But, I don’t believe she would understand the problem – EVEN then!!!

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